Can Queer Women Be Slutty?

August 13, 2010 — Leave a comment

Sure they can.

Hi, Shane. xD Okay, not Shane. Shane’s just promiscuous.

In some recent posts on Jezebel and AfterEllen, they argued the yays and nays.

One side says that no, they can’t be called slutty because there’s no shame in sleeping around. Because “slutty” is a negative word that men use to make women feel less. ‘Coz a slutty man is a dog — with the forgiveness of dogs who are supposed to be loyal, but will diddle anything that’s in heat. Oxymoron!

The other side says lesbians can be promiscuous… which some argue means the same as slut. But if you think about it, different words have different connotations… even if they seem similar.

I see the word “slutty” as being easy. Nothing to do with prostitutes, whom you know have been around since the ages. Prostitutes work, sex is their trade. Nothing easy about that. However, slutty women are easy… not because they enjoy sex on their terms — those would be promiscuous… like Shane xD — slutty women have sex on other people’s terms. Actually, no… the first sign of slutty women is how tacky they are. Slutty is an attitude, so yeah… being a slut is different to being promiscuous.

I don’t wanna state names, but some not-a-celebrity who used to be on E! Hmm… actually a lot of people on E! Entertainment are slutty. They’re tacky, and they prance around their business like it’s our business to see them. Sluts are tacky women who crave so much for attention that they’re willing to give everything for it.

On the other side, you might think that Dita Von Teese, being a burlesque dancer and being nude a lot of the time, is slutty, but no. Von Teese is anything but that. If you read her or watch an interview with her, you might notice that she’s a pretty classy lady.

So being a burlesque dancer, a stripper, a companion, an escort, etc. doesn’t make you a slut. Your attitude is what makes the difference between a slut or not, while sleeping around makes the difference between being promiscuous or not. Not that I accept being promiscuous… though, you know… I love Shane, but that’s only because she’s such a good pal to everyone. I can be friends with someone who sleeps around, but I don’t think I could date someone like that. In theory, I’m up for an open relationship… in practice, I dunno.

So as conclusion… xD I, for one, think that men and women can be slutty. But that’s just me. If queer women can/can’t be slutty… what happens to queer men?

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